Sticky Eyes

    When you are talking to your quarry, let your eyes stay glued to his or hers a little longer than necessary - even during silences. A gaze that lingers awakens primal, slightly disturbing feelings. It induces the same "fight or flight" chemicals that race through our veins when we feel infatuation. When you must look away, do so reluctantly. Drag your eyes away slowly. This is a particularly good technique for men to use, as women always want to feel that a man is absolutely fascinated by them.

    The Visual Voyage

    As you and your date are chatting, let your eyes do some traveling - but only on safe ground at first. Take a visual voyage all over his or her face, concentrating on their eyes. If he or she seems to be enjoying your expedition, take small side trips to the neck, shoulders and torso. For girls, take sneak peeks at his body - and when he sees you pretend you are a little embarrassed. This should really get his juices flowing and is a great way to get a friend to think of you sexually. For the man this technique is a little more dangerous, so be wary. If your eyes travel too far south for too long you'll be in trouble.

    Expensive Dining

    This is good for a gentleman who intends to pick up the bill on the first date. Make sure you take your date to an expensive restaurant with an atmosphere like the one you wish to project - be it elegant, upbeat, cool or arty. Atmosphere is important because she will transfer her feelings about the room to you. It may be superficial, but women tend to judge a man on the first place he takes them.

    Dress to Impress

    Even when seeking only a casual liaison, do not go out dressed like an unmade bed. Dress as though you were auditioning to be his or her husband or wife. Men must make sure they are coordinated and dress affluently: women love good quality clothes on men. Women need to dress alluringly but not in a cheap way. He is going to mentally undress you anyway, so there is no need for that short skirt. However, you might want to try a slightly more revealing second layer of clothes so that you can, at the right moment, take off that jacket and reveal some wonderful cleavage.

    Give First Date Butterflies

    When planning your first date, find out what pulls your date's strings, and then plan an arousing, emotional adventure. You don't have to go sky-diving, but a little shared danger is a proven aphrodisiac. A scary movie is an easy way to achieve this - or perhaps ice-skating, where the woman may be nervous and might have to hold on tight. Afterwards, go out for dinner or a drink to discuss your shared experience.

    Co-react

    To capture your quarry's heart, you need to share his or her convictions and show that you feel them deeply. Watch his or her reactions to outside stimuli, then show the same emotions - shock, disgust, humour, compassion, etc. This is particularly important for men, who are more inclined to misjudge situations. Make sure your reactions suit the mood.

    Smile

    A simple but crucial technique. A smile is the most effective form of body language and a great way to let somebody know that you are interested in them. As you are looking at or talking to a member of the opposite sex whom you wish to seduce, let a soft smile of acceptance frame your lips. Don't give too quick a smile: just let a slow one float over your face. This will seem much more genuine - while making your romantic intentions obvious.

    How do you feel about that?

    A good tip for men: pluck up some courage and, whatever your quarry is discussing, simply ask her, "How do you feel about that?" It might seem awkward at first, but woman love to talk about how they feel and will nearly always respond enthusiastically. Women, on the other hand, should wait until a relationship is on stable ground before asking a man much about his feelings - otherwise there is a danger of rocking the boat before it is launched.

    Let Your Quarry Pass an 'Audition'

    Men should not ask a woman out too soon, lest she think you are interested only in her looks. The ideal time to ask a woman for a date is when she has said something relevant to her personality. For example, if she says something spiritual, say that you'd love to hear more about that, perhaps over dinner. A woman values interest all the more if she feels that you appreciate her inner qualities. Women, meanwhile, can move faster, as men are less afraid of being treated as sex objects.

    Have the First Laugh

    Another obvious but important technique. Women: make sure you laugh at your quarry's jokes and, when in a group, be the first to laugh. It brings you closer together. Men should try and introduce cute private jokes to create a bond between the two of you. This will help to make you seem like long-time lovers rather than first-date strangers.

    眼神交流

    當(dāng)你和他說話時，注視對方的雙眸，甚至在不必要時乃至沉默時。注視可以漸漸的喚醒原始的，稍稍令人心動的情感。它可以讓猶豫不決的他產(chǎn)生化學(xué)反應(yīng)，通過靜脈的流動，對我們產(chǎn)生迷戀。當(dāng)你必須把目光移開時，記得要表現(xiàn)的很不情愿。把雙眸，慢慢的挪開。尤其對于男性來說，這是一個技術(shù)活，因為女性總是想要讓男人對她們絕對的著迷。

    視覺之旅

    當(dāng)你和你的約會對象聊天時，讓你的眼睛稍作一些"旅行"--但是首先要在安全地帶。在他或她的面部注視，然后專注于她們的雙眼。如果他或她似乎很享受你的欣賞，再小幅度的調(diào)整你的目光范圍至頸部，肩部以及肢體。對于女孩子來說，要小心的偷窺他的身體，而一旦被他發(fā)現(xiàn)，要裝出一副小尷尬的樣子。這樣應(yīng)該可以真的得到他的芳心，而且絕對是讓人認(rèn)為你性感的好辦法。對于男性來說這個技巧有一點危險，所以要謹(jǐn)慎。如果你的眼睛"長途跋涉"的太靠下了，你就有麻煩了。

    奢華的晚餐

    對于紳士來說，這是一個在第一次約會上成功的好方案。一定要帶你的女伴去一個與之氣質(zhì)相符高級餐廳--或優(yōu)雅，或歡快，或冷酷，或附庸風(fēng)雅。在這里，氣氛很重要。因為她對你的感覺會隨房屋給她的感覺而變化。這也許膚淺，但是女士們往往通過男士第一次帶她去的地方來評判他們。

    服飾印象

    即便只是尋求一種臨時的聯(lián)系，也不要出門仍舊穿著家居服。穿著打扮時要把自己想象成他的丈夫或妻子。男士必須確保他的衣服和諧且高檔：女人喜歡穿著有品質(zhì)的衣服的男人。女式則需打扮的誘人而不輕浮。他會在大腦里給你寬衣，所以沒必要直接穿短裙。然而，你可以在里面穿一件稍微暴露點的衣服，這樣在適當(dāng)?shù)臅r候，脫下外套，秀出你的精彩

    給第一次約會一點刺激

    當(dāng)規(guī)劃你的第一次約會時，找出并標(biāo)記你的日期，然后計劃一個激發(fā)情緒的冒險之旅。不必非要高空跳傘，但稍微分享一些危險是一劑好的催情藥�？植榔�，或者溜冰，都是簡單的冒險之旅。它會讓女生緊張，進(jìn)而依賴男性。之后，出去吃個飯或者喝點東西，再來分享你們的經(jīng)歷。

    聯(lián)合反應(yīng)

    為了得到他的芳心，你需要分享他或她的信仰并且表態(tài)你也深有同感。觀察他或她對外界刺激的反應(yīng)，然后你也需要一同樣的情緒作回應(yīng)--震驚，厭惡，幽默，同情等。這對男人來說尤為重要，因為他們經(jīng)常錯誤的判斷情況。一定要記住：保證你的反應(yīng)配合正確的情緒。

    微笑

    一個簡單卻關(guān)鍵的技術(shù)。微笑是讓別人知道你對他感興趣的最好的方式，也是最有效的身體語言。當(dāng)你正在和一個你想交往的異性對視或者焦炭的時候，掛一個淺淺的微笑在你的嘴邊。不能笑的太夸張，要云淡風(fēng)輕。這是你顯得更真實，同時顯得你浪漫。

    你怎么看？

    對男性的提示：拿出勇氣。無論你的女神在談?wù)撌裁矗�簡單的問她：你怎么看？也許起初看起來會有些囧，但女人們總是喜歡談?wù)撍齻兊母杏X別且總是積極回應(yīng)。對于女士們，就要從另一方面說了。你應(yīng)該等到關(guān)系穩(wěn)定之后再問男人的感覺--否則就有船還沒開就觸礁的危險了。

    提出約會

    男士不應(yīng)該過早的邀請女人出來，以免她認(rèn)為你只是迷戀她的美貌。理想的提出約會的時間是，當(dāng)她已經(jīng)說過一些關(guān)于她的個性的事情之后。比方說，她說到她的精神，那你就說希望了解她更多，也許可以共進(jìn)晚餐。女人覺得一個欣賞自己內(nèi)在的男人更有價值。而對于女士來說，可以早一點向男人提出約會，因為男人不擔(dān)心被當(dāng)做性玩物。

    第一個笑

    另一個明顯但重要的技術(shù)。女士們：當(dāng)你的他講了笑話，一定要笑，而且如果當(dāng)時有其他人在場，你一定要第一個笑！這樣可以使你們走的更近。男士應(yīng)該嘗試講一些可愛的私人笑話以建立屬于你們的"語言".這將有助于使你看起來是一個相戀已久的戀人，而不是第一次約會的陌生人。